It really works. Last night, I encountered a situation that triggered me. Someone was quite aggressive in their displeasure with me, and I immediately felt the dagger plunge into my self-worth. Although I responded to them in a gentle (and apologetic) way, inside I was still reeling from the hurt and self-blame. But, importantly, I did not tell anyone else about this upset; I did not try to get consolation and confirmation that I did not do anything wrong. This would simply have strengthened the problem. About an hour later, Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements popped into my head. Specifically, “Don’t take anything personally”—and instantaneously, the dagger was removed. I felt completely at peace, no longer held captive by this upset. I could understand why this person reacted this way. Without judgment, only understanding and compassion, the upset became a wonderful miracle of transformation.